I don't know why I needed to resurrect what happened two years ago and bring it to a public court. Perhaps because the memory is still alive and, no, no, it makes itself felt with a sudden “I hate”, when the pain wakes up, the pictures come to life. Actors: Me, accountant, director, manager and HR manager.
I came to that company pretty exhausted after a long search for a job, stupid refusals on my part, which I still regret, and refusals from employers.
That company hired me surprisingly quickly as an office manager with HR functions, and at first everything was going well until a new accountant came in.
My intuition worked at a completely subconscious level, because there were several unpleasant moments that were literally physically felt, but I couldn't articulate them and bring them to the level of actions and thoughts.
First, the new accountant began to frenzily criticize the former accountant. I remember this scene: she criticizes her predecessor over and over again, and the director comforts her with the words “You're the best, you're the best”. At that time, it seemed to me like something wild, like the behavior of a spoiled child. She kept making it clear that an accountant was the most important person in an organization and how much responsibility he had.
Second, the accountant and I were sitting in the cafeteria shortly after she arrived. The accountant, without raising her head, started asking me questions without looking me in the eye or using my first name or pronoun. “Where do you live?” “Married?” “Where did you get married?” At the same time, her face did not express anything, or rather unkind; questions were asked not with friendly curiosity, but with some kind of aggression. After that, I took a long time away emotionally, as some of the questions seemed tactless to me, and some of them had been asked earlier.
It should be noted that from day one, I went to work for that company without pleasure and with great excitement, the atmosphere was detached, the tasks were contradictory, and the situation between managers was tense. With the arrival of the new accountant, the atmosphere became toxic. Sometimes when I went into the director's office, I would hear them talking about the manager. If earlier the director could look out from behind the computer and quietly watch me work, now they just gave me an assignment and watched my reaction, how confident I was, smiling at each other.
The bullying started when I asked me to leave early, as I started the working day earlier due to work assignments that required me to be completed early in the morning. They've stopped talking to me. In addition, I voiced out loud that I did not want to move the tables on the floor, as I was insulted that the male staff sat without help.
Then came the nitpicking that I don't study professional websites at home (I did it at work). By the way, the desire to stay at work after work faded when I saw the documents ordering that both the director, accountant, and all other employees were entitled to a monthly bonus, but I was not, despite the fact that my salary was four times lower.
Then it came to an end. I couldn't stand it and one day I responded to the accountant's angry remark no less angrily. She pretended not to speak to me, but if I came to discuss something with the director, she would intervene and criticize me angrily, without talking directly. If the director wasn't there and I approached the accountant with a question, she would hate me, “Can't you see that I'm drinking tea?”
I tried to convey my frustration to the HR manager and manager, but they said that an accountant was the sweetest woman, and if I didn't like it, I could leave, and that I would probably not pass the probationary period. At the same time, there were no official reasons for firing them. I came to work early, left late, did all the work, was polite and accurate.
I hardly remember the last day and remember it with pain and hate. That morning, I went to the director's office to clarify a few work assignments. Every question I asked was attacked aggressively. Unable to stand the attacks, I asked the director why she was talking to me like this. At that point, she just grabbed me and kicked me out of the office screaming. It was incredibly humiliating. I went to see the manager but he said he didn't hear any noise and that I would not pass the probation period. The HR manager also acted detached and said that it was my problem how to deal with management.
Realizing that there was no point in staying there, I left the same day, having finally said everything I thought about them.
What conclusions did I draw?
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