A person's personal freedom consists of a person's developed emotional intelligence, the ability to think critically and assertiveness, which involves a combination of personality traits and character traits that help to accept the demands of others without fear, negative insecurity, and irony. An assertive person knows how to negotiate, does not violate other people's borders and does not allow them to violate their own. He can ask for help and provide help without tension or fear. In the books of psychologist Manuel Smith, you can find techniques and ways to increase assertiveness.
Here is a list of basic human rules that should be trained in appropriate situations of interaction with other people. It was designed by Manuel Smith.
Assertive Bill of Rights I
1. I have the right to judge my own behavior, thoughts and emotions and take responsibility for their consequences.
2. I have the right not to make excuses or apologize for my behavior.
3. I have the right to decide whether I should take responsibility for others' problems if I care about them.
4. I have the right to change my mind and change my mind.
5. I have the right to make mistakes and be responsible for them.
6. I have a right to say, “I don't know.”
7. I have the right not to depend on how others treat me.
8. I have the right to be illogical when making decisions.
9. I have the right to say, “I don't understand.”
10. I have the right to say, “I don't care... “, “I don't care about that... “, “I'm not interested in...”.
A free, assertive person can easily confess his dislike for opera and tours without thinking about the consequences.
I don't like opera either and avoid excursions (since Soviet times - not a single group tour abroad, I've never gone on any excursions). I hate group trips and forced contact with strangers, and I have the right to be illogical - I do tours myself! And I tell strangers about culture and art. I hate long posts from others about culture. I can never read them to the end. But I write these posts myself. And I don't care what or who thinks and says about me and my posts. I love theater, but it has stopped making me happy lately... Perhaps I'm no longer a theater goer... And was it? I will not consider myself a cultured person who loves books by Vodolazkin and Ivanov. I don't read modern fiction at all. I also won't consider myself a cultured person if they are ready to crucify anyone who swears, doesn't listen to opera and doesn't like Polenov while working in the cultural field. It turns out that I have been assertive since childhood, and I learned about this concept only recently, almost like Mr. Jourdain from Moliere's comedy. Personal freedom — mine and others' identity — is above all else.
We all have the right not to conform to others' ideas about what we should be, what to say, and how to think. We have the right to speak and write without regard to what people think of us. We have the right to expect that there will be people who will understand us correctly. Or they'll just understand us.
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