A person's personal freedom consists of a person's developed emotional intelligence, the ability to think critically and assertiveness, which involves a combination of personality traits and character traits that help to accept the demands of others without fear, negative insecurity, and irony. An assertive person knows how to negotiate, does not violate other people's borders and does not allow them to violate their own. He can ask for help and provide help without tension or fear. In the books of psychologist Manuel Smith, you can find techniques and ways to increase assertiveness. I think it is especially important to develop assertiveness in children.
Here is a list of basic human rules that should be trained in appropriate situations of interaction with other people. It was designed by Manuel Smith.
If parents want to use this “bill of rights” to teach their children assertive skills and, therefore, the ability to act adequately to any challenge, they will have to accept that these child rights will also apply to parent-child relationships.
Assertive Bill of Rights:
1. I have the right to judge my own behavior, thoughts and emotions and take responsibility for their consequences.
2. I have the right not to make excuses or apologize for my behavior.
3. I have the right to decide whether I should take responsibility for others' problems if I care about them.
4. I have the right to change my mind and change my mind.
5. I have the right to make mistakes and be responsible for them.
6. I have a right to say, “I don't know.”
7. I have the right not to depend on how others treat me.
8. I have the right to be illogical when making decisions.
9. I have the right to say, “I don't understand.”
10. I have the right to say, “I don't care... “, “I don't care about that... “, “I'm not interested in...”.
Psychologists believe that following these rights will reduce the risk of group pressure and aggression from others.
Many of you may think that these are rather the rights of an egocentric person who does not take into account anyone, listens only to himself, trusts only her intuition. These skills and abilities come down to self-acceptance, and this is the most important condition for protecting yourself from destructive and manipulative influences. Assertive practice allows a person to accept another person's right to do the same things, words, and deeds. This is how people learn to set their own boundaries without violating strangers.
And after learning these rights, the child will lose the habit of falling into the same trap.
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